Racially ambiguous

About Me

Fariba Soetan Mixed Up MamaWelcome to Mixed.Up.Mama- a no-holds-barred look at parenting mixed race or multiracial children.

I grew up mixed heritage myself- Iranian/British- and was raised in Edmonton, Canada. My experience growing up without an identity, spurred my curiosity in University when I began to explore what the combined mixed race experience looked like.

My research into the subject, combined with my passion for writing culminated in a Masters in International Journalism with a focus on mixed race parenting.

I am now raising three mixed daughters aged 10, 8 and 6 and navigating the journey of being in a mixed race family and raising Nigerian/Iranian/English multiracial children in London, England.

Join me and thousands of others across the world who are engaged in our Facebook group asking questions, inspiring others, offering tips and tricks for cultivating positive identity and overall, helping to create a community of parents raising interracial or mixed kids.

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  1. Hello, I love this! I’m Ghanaian and Welsh and my son is Ghanaian, Jamaican, Welsh and English. I’m a multicultural children’s book author and I believe it’s so important for our children to see themselves represented in a book. I’d love to send you a copy 🙂

  2. My family is not what most would consider a mixed race family, but we appreciate and support the beauty of people of all colors, ethnicities, shapes and sizes, and believe love is love. Love who you love and know those that question your decisions or the color of your kiddo’s skin are ignorant and operating from a place of fear. Our strength and resilience as a species comes from our diversity. As my oldest son often says, mixed race babies and people are beautiful.

    Keep up the good work! We appreciate your message and the community you’ve created.

  3. Hi! I came across you from being mentioned in a BBC news article by Ena Miller. I love how you came up with (yummy) different colors to describe your daughters. We’ve recently been faced with that challenge and she’s young just explaining we’re all humans and explaining maybe we should just name the colors we feel that day.
    I just was reading your comments and would love to recommend “Hair Love” by Matthew Cherry and “”Sulwe” by Lupita Nyong’O.

  4. Like a few others, I got here through the BBC Ena Miller story. I resonate with so many parts of raising children in a mixed-race relationship. With the added dimension I am a British Asian male, my partner is a white British male and we are a same sex couple. We have 2 boys through surrogacy. Our surrogate (completely altruistic) is white and also the biological birth mother.

    Thankfully, over the past 6 years, most of our experiences have been positive. We never make an issue of it and welcome the intrigue – it’s how we ‘educate’ and promote ‘modern day families’; we are the ‘first’ in many situations. Of course, there are always the looks, stares, frowns from both sides of the communities. Being the darker parent is far more apparent when I’m with my Milky bar kid!

    …..It’s refreshing to see that mixed-race persons are the fast-growing race in Britain. IMO One day – hopefully not too far in the future it just won’t be a thing. Until then forums and communities like this are really helpful!

  5. I just read a bbc news story. I’m so sorry that people think they have any right to question anything about your family and that they feel the need to make any sort of judgement. It’s massively overwhelming to even contemplate how to go about helping bring change and sickening how there are more people who need to change than not. I have a lot of respect for you and your family.

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